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seldneiI found this and the person who'd done it skipped a bunch of questions, and I think I'll probably do that, too.
1. When did you get married? December 17, 2000.
2. What day of the week was it? Sunday.
5. How long were you and your significant other together before getting married? Nine years.
7. How did your engagement happen? I was in grad school and we'd been together for about 6 years at that point. We were coming back to our very bohemian apartment discussing how![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
dealio kept referring to me as his fiancee.
"Well, you are," he said.
"I haven't heard a proposal," I replied. "And I see no ring on my finger." (This was a joke. He knew I didn't like diamonds and that I found the idea of spending a year's salary on a ring ridiculous.)
So a while later, after I'd forgotten the conversation, we were wrestling around (goofily, as we were wont to do when we were young and had actual energy for such things) and he pinned me. He smiled at me, very sweetly, and asked, "Will you marry me?"
I, being myself, cracked up. But I did eventually say yes, once the giggles passed.
8. How long was the engagement? Three years? If my parents hadn't gotten involved, we'd probably still be engaged.
9. Did he ask the parents? Sort of. He thought about asking my father, then forgot. So when I called to tell the family we were officially engaged, I mentioned this to my mother. She asked Dad, "Hey, Scott wants to know if it's okay with you if he and Laura get married." Dad's response was, "Well, is she okay with it?"
11. Where was your wedding ceremony and/or reception? The foyer and the dining room of the country club in my hometown.
12. What were your wedding colors? dark green and dark red--they would have been that, anyway, but it was a Christmas wedding. Ironically, that year the country club decorated in sherbert blue, pink, and green.
13. Did your father walk you down the aisle? Yes. And he made sure I didn't trip.
16. Did either of you get drunk? We actually had a relatively dry wedding. I don't drink, and we invited a lot of recovering alcoholics, plus it was a Sunday night. But people brought their own stashes, and my husband gave flasks of ... vodka? I think? to the groomsmen, so it was a little like Prohibition. :)
20. Did you smash the cake? We did cupcakes that my husband then threw across the room to people.
22. Favorite part of your wedding day? The photographer got me into the green room where the wedding party was supposed to hang out, and she and my mom got my veil arranged, situated my dress, posed me, and then threw everyone else out before telling Scott to go down and see me before pictures. He opened the doors and just ... stopped. I felt like the most beautiful thing on the planet at that moment.
I also enjoyed him walking around me and the dress going, "Mmm-hmm, very nice, very nice. I like it."
23. Least favorite part? Well, the DJ misplaced the song my father and I were supposed to dance to, so I had to decide really fast on a song to replace it. The DJ's shoving a list of song titles at me, half of which I know are cheesy, the other half I've never heard of, so I finally ask him if he has the Sam Cooke song I'd put on our "please find these and play them during the night" list. He says yes, I tell him to use that one, and he asks me if I'm sure.
Dude, I was sure about the song I requested three months ago. If you wanted me to be sure, you should have done your job and had a backup.
It turned out well, though, because neither Dad nor I cried and we had a fun dance.
24. Would you do it all again? Um ... well, sure. I loved my wedding and I had all my closest friends there, and it was worth all the stress and money. So, yes. If I was also 27 again.
Now, if I decide to renew my vows or something like that, I will probably do something totally different and much more casual. But I'd still have all the same people there.
26. How long have you been married? 8 years.
I'm going to add something here--it truly sucks that I am married and some of my friends aren't allowed to get married. Every single (pardon the pun) person in this country or any other should be able to have a day like I did--throwing cupcakes across the country club dining room; dancing to the wrong song with a parent; having one friend dye his hair to match your colors while another proves he's the best friend ever by suffering through a tuxedo to be your maid of honor; seeing your friend the officiant cry because she's so happy she gets to marry the two of you. Everyone should be able to have that kind of a day, or whatever version of all that would make for your perfect wedding, assuming you and your best beloved want one.
So there.
1. When did you get married? December 17, 2000.
2. What day of the week was it? Sunday.
5. How long were you and your significant other together before getting married? Nine years.
7. How did your engagement happen? I was in grad school and we'd been together for about 6 years at that point. We were coming back to our very bohemian apartment discussing how
dealio kept referring to me as his fiancee. "Well, you are," he said.
"I haven't heard a proposal," I replied. "And I see no ring on my finger." (This was a joke. He knew I didn't like diamonds and that I found the idea of spending a year's salary on a ring ridiculous.)
So a while later, after I'd forgotten the conversation, we were wrestling around (goofily, as we were wont to do when we were young and had actual energy for such things) and he pinned me. He smiled at me, very sweetly, and asked, "Will you marry me?"
I, being myself, cracked up. But I did eventually say yes, once the giggles passed.
8. How long was the engagement? Three years? If my parents hadn't gotten involved, we'd probably still be engaged.
9. Did he ask the parents? Sort of. He thought about asking my father, then forgot. So when I called to tell the family we were officially engaged, I mentioned this to my mother. She asked Dad, "Hey, Scott wants to know if it's okay with you if he and Laura get married." Dad's response was, "Well, is she okay with it?"
11. Where was your wedding ceremony and/or reception? The foyer and the dining room of the country club in my hometown.
12. What were your wedding colors? dark green and dark red--they would have been that, anyway, but it was a Christmas wedding. Ironically, that year the country club decorated in sherbert blue, pink, and green.
13. Did your father walk you down the aisle? Yes. And he made sure I didn't trip.
16. Did either of you get drunk? We actually had a relatively dry wedding. I don't drink, and we invited a lot of recovering alcoholics, plus it was a Sunday night. But people brought their own stashes, and my husband gave flasks of ... vodka? I think? to the groomsmen, so it was a little like Prohibition. :)
20. Did you smash the cake? We did cupcakes that my husband then threw across the room to people.
22. Favorite part of your wedding day? The photographer got me into the green room where the wedding party was supposed to hang out, and she and my mom got my veil arranged, situated my dress, posed me, and then threw everyone else out before telling Scott to go down and see me before pictures. He opened the doors and just ... stopped. I felt like the most beautiful thing on the planet at that moment.
I also enjoyed him walking around me and the dress going, "Mmm-hmm, very nice, very nice. I like it."
23. Least favorite part? Well, the DJ misplaced the song my father and I were supposed to dance to, so I had to decide really fast on a song to replace it. The DJ's shoving a list of song titles at me, half of which I know are cheesy, the other half I've never heard of, so I finally ask him if he has the Sam Cooke song I'd put on our "please find these and play them during the night" list. He says yes, I tell him to use that one, and he asks me if I'm sure.
Dude, I was sure about the song I requested three months ago. If you wanted me to be sure, you should have done your job and had a backup.
It turned out well, though, because neither Dad nor I cried and we had a fun dance.
24. Would you do it all again? Um ... well, sure. I loved my wedding and I had all my closest friends there, and it was worth all the stress and money. So, yes. If I was also 27 again.
Now, if I decide to renew my vows or something like that, I will probably do something totally different and much more casual. But I'd still have all the same people there.
26. How long have you been married? 8 years.
I'm going to add something here--it truly sucks that I am married and some of my friends aren't allowed to get married. Every single (pardon the pun) person in this country or any other should be able to have a day like I did--throwing cupcakes across the country club dining room; dancing to the wrong song with a parent; having one friend dye his hair to match your colors while another proves he's the best friend ever by suffering through a tuxedo to be your maid of honor; seeing your friend the officiant cry because she's so happy she gets to marry the two of you. Everyone should be able to have that kind of a day, or whatever version of all that would make for your perfect wedding, assuming you and your best beloved want one.
So there.
